The Traps of Comparison

Comparison can weigh heavily on us as women—whether it’s about our motherhood journey, body image, relationship status, or career. This Space offers a chance to step away from the constant measuring and reconnect with the unique beauty of your own life.
This Space is for anyone who has felt trapped by comparison, questioned their worth, or struggled to appreciate their own path.
We will explore prompts like:

• Where does the comparison trap show up most for you—motherhood, body image, relationships, or somewhere else?

"Comparison will either make you feel superior or inferior, and neither one honors your unique path. When we learn to accept and celebrate the imperfect beauty of our lives, we stop measuring and start truly living."

— Shauna Niequist, Present Over Perfect

Digital Space Powered by Totem
Join us online through Totem’s free, secure platform. Designed for connection and growth, our digital Spaces prioritize participation and shared experiences. You’ll have a turn to share as you feel comfortable, ensuring everyone’s voice is heard and valued.

How It Works:

• Facilitated by Keepers: Trained facilitators guide the Space, ensuring each person has an equal chance to contribute.
• Participation is Key: Share as you feel comfortable during your turn to speak. Listening is valued, but our Spaces thrive on shared experiences.
• Confidential & Supportive: What’s shared here stays here.

Meet Your Host

Hi, I’m Heather! I’m a proud mom of a lively 2-year-old named Luke and am currently expecting my second child. I work full-time for Totem, a nonprofit dedicated to creating meaningful spaces for moms and other community groups to connect, share, and grow together.

I’ve called Asheville home for the past seven years and am passionate about building supportive communities. Bringing Totem’s unique platform to Meetup is my way of sharing this valuable resource and helping moms like you find connection and encouragement in a space where every voice matters.

Why Join Us?

• Flexible & Family-Friendly: Kids and breastfeeding are welcome in digital Spaces.
• Inclusive & Judgment-Free: Every mother is valued here, and all stories are respected.

Sign up here or at totem.org for reminders (it’s free either way!).