What we’re about
WILL HAVE A MUCH NEEDED VACATION SOON!!!
***SO HAPPY TO RELAY THAT WE HAD MANY SUCCESSFUL PAIRINGS THAT ARE STILL DATING AFTER INTRODUCED!!! BEST CONSOLATION EVER!!!***
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“LOVE HAPPENS WHEN YOU ARE NOT READY AND NOT EXPECTING IT. SO…FORGET ABOUT IT and JUST SHOW UP! “ 😊 This group does not charge a fee nor will ask for donations towards Meetup, Zoom fees etc. but in return for FREE services we expect cooperation, initiative and good behavior which leads to many successful pairings.
THE BEGINNINGS:
Founded March 8, 2020 & prior to original organizer stepping down had 3 events: July 2020-online event/August 2021-Chicago mixer/& April 7, 2022-Chicago Singles Meet.
April 22, 2022: NEW main ORGANIZER took over
So I wasn’t a member of this group which was also in limbo for a long time before my took over. So this is like starting all over from scratch but will be very different.
Goal is priceless-to date better wherein common complaints, problems, hindrances are minimized up to avoided among daters. Also aiming for smoother dating (less waste of time/$$$, less rejection and more comfort) & hopefully one that leads to “the one” or life partner. If you are NOT into self improvement, does not like to read & just looking for “fun” this group may not be for you. If you don’t have a word of honor this group is definitely not for you.
DATERS please note of this ABOUT section and also visit the DISCUSSIONS section.
MEMBERSHIP REQUIREMENTS:
-21 and above
-actual/clear/unencumbered/solo member photo
-permanent first name or nickname. (Changing your name or nickname without prior notice/compelling reason will result in removal)
Single, Single parent, Legally Divorced, Widow/Widower. This group is not intended for someone currently in a relationship nor in or into polyamory.
The organizers will do their best to do many ways to screen (we do remove second accounts, flakers, fakes, firedoorers, etc. etc. & prepare members) but daters must still do their own background checks, etc. on their potential partners before getting serious.
March 2023: EFFECTIVE IMMEDIATELY all pending members* will undergo swift ZOOM authentication prior to approval. Old members* who have not visited/attended any non dating event are also required to attend same ZOOM authentication prior to dating. (If someone can not even attend a short 5 minutes ZOOM then what more with dating?) The more active/willing daters, the more dates and better pairings.
*Exception: not required to those already known to leadership
“FEW LESS LONELY COUPLES IN THE WORLD” was enough for me to takeover this group from closing. Aiming for less “2 ships that passed in the night” but more on “shipping one couple at a time” :)
YES! Ironically but sweet-WE ARE HAPPY WHEN SUCCESSFULLY PAIRED MEMBERS LEAVE THE GROUP. (So number of members is not what matters most in this group).
We now also call this private group:
S Single Smart Supportive
A Active Artistic Altruistic Adventurous
F Fun Funny Fair Friendly (Fully Vaccinated-mostly)
E Eclectic (Eccentric) Educational Enthusiastic about Self Improvement & hopefully Eventually partnered (& NO LONGER A MEMBER 🤗)
MISCELLANEOUS:
We will still have non dating events and that it’s truly fine to be LATE and we can still accommodate you. You can also LEAVE EARLIER during some events as long as you inform the host before you leave. (This is to align with Meetup safety.)
Know though that we will require you to be on time or even early on DATING events, FMSC volunteering, Escape Rooms, etc.
HOST + GUESTS: In non dating events some attendees will show as guests if they are from our other private groups managed by same leadership.
In case of dating events or daters the organizer will put all attendees as guests to keep members' privacy.
***PREFERRED MAIN COMMUNICATION (i.e. questions): DIRECT MESSAGE between leadership/organizer, pending members (it will be assumed that you know what group you joined and also read the ABOUT section before joining), active members and previously known persons.
Same way leadership MUST be able to contact you by either group messaging, DM, online or in person especially related to events you signed up for/attending. If there is no way to communicate then a membership will not be allowed. Part of learning is having a 2 way street always. Communication only ceases when a member decides to leave the group anytime (but is also free to come back but still have to follow house rules/requirements). As a meetup member you are free to join any and many meetup groups- I love meetup-whatever helps you!!
We currently don’t allow members to have guests to prioritize membership EXCEPT WITH PRIOR NOTICE for example: volunteering.
We do have events that are a sure go which are not dependent on the number of attendees but WE ALSO RESERVE THE RIGHT TO CANCEL OR RESCHEDULE EVENTS due to low attendance, “acts of God”, etc.
Do not just rely on meetup emails (sometimes changes do not translate in real time). You must check our GROUP PAGE for ACCURATE event status especially for canceled or rescheduled events.
THESE APPLY TO ALL MEMBERS re dating and non dating events:
LATE CANCELLATION (LC): updating RSVP (or messaging) less than 24 hours prior to the event
NO SHOW (NS): still signed up in the event but did not show up OR
confirmed coming through messaging but did not show up
LC has the same impact to the group like a NS and depending on the situation NS and LC will be taken against membership.
A NS or LC can be erased in order to stay a member. One way is to attend a posted volunteering event. For other ways (like co hosting an event etc.) you may DM the main organizer.
CHICAGOLAND Single and DATING BETTER (PRIVATE)
https://4142298.xyz/ChicagolandSingleandDatingBetter