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Are you tired of trying to find the right place to meet mature (64-78 years of age) and eligible single folks? Bars send the wrong message; singles events are mainly about dancing and loud music with no opportunity to actually get to know folks; dating websites are expensive or just not very helpful and some other meetup groups seem to be more like a singles "meat market", or only for young folks, or they are non-singles events.
I have started this group because I love getting together and socializing with folks. Good food, drink, conversation and fun events. While finding a partner and friends from this meetup would be wonderful, minimally, we could all enjoy a nice event together. How it works: I will make plans for dinner, or some other event, somewhere usually between San Mateo and Campbell. Check out our past and future events to get a sense of all the fun kinds of things that we do!
So, if this sounds like something that you would enjoy, please join us. There will be several events each month. For dinners, each person will pay on separate checks so that there is no issue with payment. This is a singles meetup group for a more mature crowd so please don't join unless you are single and not in a committed relationship AND you are between the ages of 64-78. Many of us will come from different experiences: Newly single after long term relationships have ended (death, divorce, etc); Never married, etc. There will be no pressure to start a relationship. That will be up to folks to pursue on their own if desired.
Sometimes we just have to get out and be with other human beings who may be going through what some of us are experiencing. If you have questions, let me know!
Policies, Guidelines and Liability Statement -- As of 4/2024
Welcome to Posse of Six (PO6). This is a simple and fun meetup group (not a business) that provides our events, communications, and activities for our participants subject to the terms of service set forth below. If you don’t agree to these, you will not be able to participate in this meetup group. We may update the Agreement at any time. When we do, we will revise the "Revision date" at the top of this Agreement. It is your responsibility to review the most recent version of the Agreement frequently and remain informed about any changes to it. By continuing to participate in PO6, you consent to any updates to this Agreement. Additionally, you accept this Agreement and any modifications that we may make to this Agreement from time to time. If you do not agree to any part of this Agreement, you should not join PO6.
One of the special things about PO6 is that we get out and do things, and go places together. We go to restaurants, coffee houses, parks, beaches, private homes, do trips, and other wacky stuff. In order to run such a meetup group, it is important that those participating are well informed and in agreement with the material below.
As a member of PO6, you agree that in no circumstance shall PO6 or a private host (in a private home or private venue of one of our members) be liable for any direct, indirect, incidental, special, consequential or exemplary damages, including but not limited to, damages for loss of profits, goodwill, use, data or other intangible losses, arising out of or in connection with our group or the inability to use our group (however arising, including negligence), arising out of or in connection with Third Party Transactions or arising out of or in connection with your use of our group or transportation to or from PO6 Events, attendance at PO6 Events, participation in or exclusion from PO6 Events and the actions of you or others at PO6 Events.
Events/Gatherings. Through our PO6 meetup group we provide tools that enable our users to arrange physical meetings at venues that include, but are not limited to, public parks, private homes or private enterprises (such as coffee shops or retail stores). While the PO6 Organizer will typically be at the events, the Organizer(s) will not be responsible for supervising these events and are not involved in any way with the actions of any individuals at these PO6 Events. As a result, PO6 will have no control over the identity or actions of the individuals who are present at these Events, and we request that our users exercise caution and good judgment when attending these Events.
Release. Because PO6 does not supervise or control the Group Events or interactions among or between members of the Groups and other persons or companies, and because PO6 is not involved in any way with physical transportation to or from Events or with the actions of any individuals at Events, and because we do not control Amazon.com, PayPal, credit card companies or other payment processing companies, and because we cannot guarantee the true identity, age, or nationality of PO6 users, and because we have very limited control, if any, over the quality, safety, morality, legality, truthfulness or accuracy of various aspects of the PO6 Group you agree that you bear all risk and you agree to release PO6 (and our co-organizers, private event hosts, creators, agents, entertainment personnel, third party partners and their designees) from claims, demands, and damages (actual and consequential) of every kind and nature, known and unknown, suspected and unsuspected, disclosed and undisclosed, now and in the future, arising out of or in any way connected with your use of the PO6 Group, and/or your transportation to or from, attendance at, or the actions of you or other persons at, a PO6 Meetup Gathering. You further waive any and all rights and benefits otherwise conferred by any statutory or non-statutory law of any jurisdiction that would purport to limit the scope of a release or waiver. You waive and relinquish all rights and benefits which you have or may have under Section 1542 of the Civil Code of the State of California or any similar provision of the statutory or non-statutory law of any other jurisdiction to the full extent that you may lawfully waive all such rights and benefits.
If you agree with the above (which is a similar document as what you have already agreed to by joining Meetup.com in general), you must indicate that you have read and agree to this by Responding to the Question in Reference to this.
Thank you for your understanding and PO6 truly hopes that you can join us!
POS Guidelines and Policies Section
If you are reading this Guidelines and Policies Section, hopefully, you are considering joining Posse of Six (POS). However, before you do, it is important that you know how this group is managed. Please let me know if any of this is confusing or you have questions.
Age Range and Uninvolved Single Status will be Upheld
If there are folks on this meetup looking to socialize with men and women under the age of 64, this is NOT the group for you, however, I know that there are tons of meetups out there for meeting those in younger age groups.
I realize that it is hard for those in all age groups to find good meetups sponsoring events with a balanced ratio of men to women so I feel for all of them too. Hopefully, they will start their own meetup for those in their age groups!
My first priority for PO6 is that it is a safe and good place to meet kind, considerate people. While it is definitely for single men and women who are hoping to enjoy venues where they can meet each other and get to know each other, it is also wonderful if folks find someone special . . . very special. Though this will not likely happen for most of us, at least we will benefit from the most important thing of having a nice community of men and women to socialize with and to create friendships, not to mention good food and drink!
Safety
Please be prudent (women especially) in what you share about yourselves. I know that you all know this, but I wouldn't give out phone numbers, addresses, etc. unless you are feeling very comfortable with someone. Most men who join these groups are there for all the same reasons that most of us women are there. However, these kinds of groups also attract men (and women) who may be looking for something else and safety needs to be everyone's first consideration.
There have been NO issues of which I am aware that have come up in this group regarding safety, however, I want to be proactive in trying to keep it this way. If anyone has any experiences that you are uncomfortable with (men or women), feel free to run them by me and we can see if there is a way to resolve them. If they can't be resolved, and I am worried about someone's intent as possibly being less than positive, then I will do what I need to in order to keep the group comprised of like-minded, kind, considerate, and caring individuals.
When first meeting with someone you are just getting to know:
1. Arrange to meet your new friend in a safe neighborhood where there are lots of people. Restaurants and coffee shops are usually good choices.
2. Tell a friend or family member the location and time you are meeting your new friend. Make sure they have your cell phone number
3. Phone your friend or family member when the get-together is over. Give them a rough estimate of when they can expect your call.
Not a Dating Site
Also, Posse of Six is not a Singles Dating Site. It is a site FOR singles in a certain age range to come together and develop nice connections with others in our age range. If, out of that, nice friendships or "luv" relationships develop, wonderful. So, I would like to request that members do not contact each other without having met. If folks start emailing based upon pictures, that feels more like a dating site/meat market and does not feel good to me. If any of you have this happen to you, please let me know so that I can contact the person doing it and request that they not do it. If it continues, I will drop those folks from the meetup group. This needs to be a "safe site" for folks to belong. If any of you are on this meetup group for dating purposes only, while there is nothing wrong with that, I would appreciate it if you would opt out.
BTW, I emailed Meetup about this issue and they suggested the following:
“Members can control if other members contact them on the site. They can adjust their settings here:
https://4142298.xyz...
Also, if they're uncomfortable and would like us to take a look into something, be sure to let them know they can always forward content to [email protected]”.
Please take advantage of what Meetup offers to protect yourselves from unwanted solicitations AND don't hesitate to let me know if anything like this is occurring so that I can also be responsive.
What makes this Meetup group different is that it is a good place to meet good people and not feel pressure to do anything that you do not want to do.
Dinner No Shows
If you sign up for a dinner event and do not show, I will email you to find out what happened. If you do not respond, or the reason given is a bit "lame", I will drop folks from the Meetup. This is not because I don't want ALL of you to be a part of Posse of Six but, as you can imagine, it is so highly unfair to those on the Wait List when seats are left empty by someone who is RSVP'd to come and then “no shows”.
Women Attendance at Dinners
Anyone who is already attending a larger dinner event that same month will NOT also be able to come to the small dinner(s) within that same month. Additionally, if you attend a dinner one month, please don't RSVP for another dinner in a consecutive month. Of course, you can always get on the Wait List for any of these dinners and this sometimes will get you in. Please self monitor signing up since I hate to have to remove folks or move them to the Wait List. I really want to include everyone but just can't. This does not apply to the men at this time due to "numbers" but it will at some point be an issue for them too.
However, the picnics and Flash POSSE’s are open to everyone with no RSVP limits and no attempt at balancing the 50-50 gender ratio. Thus, EVERYONE can attend at least one event every month!
Flash POSSE's
So what are these Flash POSSE's? The POSSE stands for Posse of Six Spontaneous Events. It is a version of the Flash Mob except there will be no dancing (well, okay, you can dance if you want to). Instead, it is for any Posse of Sixer's who just want to join up for company and conversation. The notice is done spontaneously usually hours before the time of meeting. Too much notice being given could result in too large a number showing up for the venue to accommodate.
I announce these when I am thinking of doing something that I would do anyway so, if no one shows up that is perfectly fine. Interestingly, so far, folks have always shown up and it has resulted in fun conversation and some nice connections.
You never need to respond to these Flash Posse emails. I usually am not around much after I sent them so usually wouldn't get any emails beforehand anyway.
Some General Stuff
For the dinners, I will do random seat assignments at each table in a boy-girl-boy-girl fashion. Please do not move your seats. If you notice someone at another table who you would like to get to know better, there will be time after dinner to mingle. I have found that everyone enjoys getting to know the folks at their tables, which is what it is all about. Mingling afterwards has allowed folks to connect well with others.
I am very committed to the idea of a 50-50 ratio of men to women for the dinner events. Since POS is not a Meetup for a women’s group or a men’s group, but is for a mixed and balanced group, I will stick with this. However, the picnics and Flash POSSE’s are open to everyone with no RSVP limits and no attempt at balancing the 50-50 gender ratio.
Hope you got to the end of all of this since you have answered "YES" to the Joining question stating you have read and AGREE to all of it. BTW, once again, WELCOME!