What we’re about
Update!
I'm VERY happy to say Iv'e fully recovered from a serious and unexpected back injury! I am back and ready to rock! New events coming soon!
Jerry
More about the group:
We’re all about getting together for enjoyable low key activities and easy going socializing. Or maybe just getting the guts to step out of your comfort zone and initiate a conversation with someone, or maybe not!
Although this group geared toward straight singles, all orientations are welcome to join!
I started this group because I had joined an introverts group years ago, only to see that most of their events were held at crowed and noisy venues. I attended one of them, just to see what it was like. It went something like this: It was held at a crowded restaurant. I arrived on time. Couldn't find our group. Hostess was clueless. So what next? Ok so I got the guts to walk around the crowded dining room trying to find the group, occasionally asking people “Is this the introvert table?” (Everyone looking at me like I’m crazy, and I’m feeling knots in my stomach since this is a very difficult thing to do for a socially anxious introvert like me. Meanwhile resisting the overwhelming urge to just leave and go home). But then I finally found the group. About 15 people. They were all seated at a long rectangular table against a wall. The group host said “hello take a seat” (did not introduce me to anyone). Well there was only one seat open, it was in the middle of the long side of the table against the wall. There was not enough room to squeeze between the wall and the seated people. 3 People had to get up and out to let me in to the open seat. The person closest to the middle could not hear me. The person sitting next to him tapped him on the shoulder and 3 people got up and shuffled out single file to allow me to get in. Ok! I’m finally sitting down! I said hello and introduced myself to the person to the right of me. He said “What? I can’t hear you” I turned to talk to the person on my left but she was talking to the person on her left. Tried to talk to the person sitting across from me, he said hello and that's all. I spent the remainder of the evening looking at my cellphone. And the food sucked. Sucked BAD!
Seriously?? I asked myself, how could this be?? Why on earth is an introverts group meeting at a crowded tightly packed socially restrictive restaurant?
I’m here to tell you that this kind of thing will NOT happen in our group! We will meet in smaller relaxed groups! You will be warmly welcomed and introduced to everyone! You will not be ignored while everyone else is huddled in a social click! We will do fun things in happy environments! If you choose not to talk to anyone, that’s ok! But if you do get the courage to speak or interact, you will be supported and encouraged! We want to hear what you have to say! We may challenge each other at times to step out of our comfort zone and start a conversation with a perfect stranger. And if that person does not reciprocate your conversation, so what? You win because you tried! And if you keep trying? The rules of probability and randomness will indeed show you that some people will talk to you! Your free will is accepted, respected and encouraged! If you choose not to decide to do this, you still have made a choice and you will be respected for that!
Please consider the following. In the interest of privacy, respect and attempting to avoid fake profiles, the following group rules apply:
Your profile should have a real first name. Last name not required, but last initial is helpful to differentiate individuals with the same first name. Can we avoid fake names and initials please? Example - Ball Z-1, EyeM Supreme, Dude420, etc.
Privacy must be respected. You will be asked to agree not to disclose the identity of this groups members to anyone in or not in the group. (This includes anything on the internet, social media etc.)
You will be asked to acknowledge that you understand if you are a no-show to a event which you’ve scheduled to attend, you will be removed from the group.
A main profile photo that shows your face. We're requiring face pictures in an effort to reduce fake profiles and to help identify you at events. This group is private. Members are only visible to members within the group. Your main profile photo should show just you. No group photos, no children, no pets, not blurred or face obscured or partially obscured by shadows, no back of your head or just one one eyeball or hair completely covering your face like cousin IT, etc.