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This is a friendly confrontation group. The object of the work is to seek the answer to the "Who am I?" question. We use the tool of self-inquiry to retreat from errors in our thinking, through the critical examination of our beliefs and thinking processes. This process should and will prove itself along the way in proportion to the seeker's honesty, persistence, and commitment.

We hold meetings currently through the "Microsoft Teams" online platform advertised in the events section. To log into meetings, you need to become a member first by clicking on the "request to join" tab at the bottom of the page. Joining a meeting on the night, click on the upcoming event, where there will be a link to the meeting on the right-hand side as you scroll down that page. If you are having any difficulties with this, contact me, the organiser, using the Meetup messaging facility.

A meeting will be advertised at least a week in advance, where there is usually some stimulating material presented in the topic heading and meeting information to think about. Generally, on the night each participant is given a block of time of around 10 minutes (dependent upon the number of participants on the night) to share thoughts on the topic after which will be quizzed on their opinions for the following 10 minutes. This helps seekers to itemise areas in their perspective that may feel false or not fully understood and provides questions for the seeker to reflect on when the meeting is over. A pen and paper at the ready may be beneficial to record anything that resonates during the meetings to reflect on later.

[Here is the link to the previous group from which this group started: Awareness, Spiritual, Zen, Psychological, Philosophy Group | Meetup]

Some main guidelines are:

Own what you say. Use "I" statements rather than "you", "one" or "we". Depersonalizing avoids ownership of feelings, experiences, opinions, and issues, making change an uphill battle. By using the word “we”, it seeks validation and acceptance of others. “My” puts your truth before your need to fit in.

Be honest with yourself and others.

No one is obligated to share or do anything.

Ask questions with a sincere desire to understand how the other person thinks.

Do not give advice.

Some participants ask if it is ok to leave their camera off during a meeting and that is perfectly fine, whatever is preferable.

Do not try to convince anyone of anything or play God by preaching.

When asking questions do not make it about you, the questioner.

Loaded questions are not helpful, where you imply in the question some opinion about the character of the person being questioned. The monitor will bring these types of questions into the open during the meeting to highlight a style of questioning not tolerated.

The rule is that if participants go against the set out rules, without genuine efforts to change their approach to the meeting accordingly, they will be given three chances before being dropped by the monitor from the meeting. It is then up to the monitor if the person is allowed back for future meetings, which will only happen if an amicable agreement has been reached to comply with the rules for future meetings.

Recommended books to read (also please give ratings for these books as the more ratings a book gets, it will appear more often in the searches):

Essential Books for the Spiritual Search: Books - (tatfoundation.org)

I Am That: Nisargadatta Maharaj, Translated by Maurice Frydman, Sudhakar S. Dikshit: I am That: Talks with Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj : Maharaj Sri Nisargadatta, Sudhakar S. Dikshit, no: Amazon.co.uk: Books

The Collected Works of Ramana Maharshi: The Collected Works of Ramana Maharshi: Amazon.co.uk: Maharshi, Ramana, Osborne, Arthur: 9781597310048: Books

"There is no greater religion than human friendship" - Richard Rose

[Thanks to Wikipedia Commons for the cover picture]

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