Success Partners

Weekly Goal Setting Meeting: Each participant will receive a copy of the Success Partnership Form, a weekly goal-setting form to review the previous week and set your goals for the upcoming week and month. Did you attend our meeting last week? How did you do on your goals?

We'll take ten minutes to fill in the form. Start by giving your previous week a 'mark' out of ten. (Want the form ahead of time? Google "Success Partnership Form" word or PDF)

Even if you don't download the form, you can think about your goals for the upcoming week. Make use of Rich Fettke's "Power of 3" suggestion - two is too few goals, four is too many - for both monthly and weekly goals.

Each participant reads out their answers. (Eight participants get 7 minutes each, more time for fewer attendees). If you would like feedback, just ask for it. Feedback will not be offered unless you ask. (Please refrain from offering feedback unless asked - this is IMPORTANT!)

One question on the form is: RESULTS OF MY GOALS FROM OUR LAST MEETING. If you have not attended this meeting previously, simply write in any results from goals you have recently accomplished.

We'll close the meeting by discussing dates for upcoming meetings:
- Ultimate Management of Paper and Electronic Files
- Quarterly/Yearly Goal Setting
- Life Balance Wheel
- Clarify Life Values

I will explain how one-on-one Success Partnership works, if you prefer private goal setting with me rather than a group.

Also, I encourage group members to break off into sets of two and become Success Partners together, if desired. You can save the $5 fee for attending my meetings, and chat more in-depth about your goals with a partner, rather than having 7 minutes. But remember, you won't get the benefit of group support.

But be forewarned: I spent the last twenty years trying to get folks to commit to being Success Partners with me - it can be challenging! People can flake on you! Just know that if you do give this a try for a time, you will certainly be welcomed back if it doesn't work out.

Attendance for this meeting is a Flexible Fee of $2 - $5: cash in an envelope on the table, or e-transfer. NOTE: Fees will be collected at the start of the meeting. Job Seeker? Disability recipient? Meetings are FREE - temporarily. I am confident that by attending and setting your goals, you will be in a position to cover the fee very soon.

Meetings begin promptly at 7PM, so please try to arrive at 6:45PM. (You'll get to network with everyone by arriving early...) With the ferries docking nearby, and the boardwalk by the water, we sometimes take a nice stroll afterwards - please join us!

Weekly Sunday Night Goal Setting Meetings take place every Sunday night...Join us! Improve your life EXPONENTIALLY!!

Each Success Partner will identify one mental health challenge they’re currently facing, as well as one strategy they’d like to implement over a period of one month. (List of challenges at the bottom)

Meetings take place every two weeks. At "Mental Health Strategy Challenge" meetings you can do any of the following:

• Declare the start of your challenge
• Conclude your one-month challenge
• Give a two-week status update, and get re-focussed

Whether you suffer from anxiety, ruminating thoughts, self-sabotage, chronic worry, substance use disorder (food qualifies!), or something else, most of us could easily identify at least one area of our mental health that could use improvement.

Maybe you want to start meditating to reduce stress. Improve social anxiety. Explore a toxic relationship. Let yourself or others off the hook a little more. There is no end to issues, but no end to great strategies to try out in order to eliminate these problems!

When you first attend this meeting, feel free to:

• Come with these ideas already prepared, and talk about how you plan to implement them

• Talk these ideas out and create a plan at the meeting, asking for feedback if desired

• Just listen, and attend a future meeting to do any of the above!

This is loose and fun, but also productive, and it does have a structure. Overall, the meetings are about making positive progress on, and gaining some control over, a sore spot that is holding you back in life.

Rinse and repeat!! You can keep attending these meetings to address another issue, a new issue, or work on the old one using a new strategy, should it come back to haunt you again.

When returning to the meeting after one month, reflect on:

• Did we make progress?
• Experience any backsliding? (normal)
• Overall, how did the challenge change our day-to-day experiences of this difficulty in our lives?

A few of the problems I see with the way mental health is treated in Ontario are:

• Only professionals with minimal training are covered by OHIP (social workers, counsellors)

• The expectation is to “talk” endlessly about your issues, which can re-traumatize you

• You are never offered the opportunity to implement a strategy

• Or, you are overwhelmed with *too many* strategies but offered no follow up to check on progress

These have been my experiences at least, and I’d like to offer an alternative.

Instructions on how to participate:

• Identify your problem area by looking at the list at the bottom

• Check out one of the great YouTube channels I suggest below, to find a strategy you can implement

• RSVP for meetings, setting goals for your progress (Sunday Night Weekly Goal Setting Meeting if desired)

• Get ready to bring this area under control and be free of this bothersome issue for good!

NOTE: If you are confused by any of the above, want some help narrowing down one problem area, or coming up with a strategy, feel free to message me!! (Lori M.)

MY PERSONAL STRATEGY - AN EXAMPLE

For most of my adult life I have identified as the “Family Scapegoat.” This has left me with Complex Trauma (C-PTSD), the symptoms of which mimic many other disorders. I have been incorrectly diagnosed with a few of these disorders, primarily due to the fact that C-PTSD is still not listed in the DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition).

Recently, it became extremely important for me to understand why I am “like tar” for other abusers. I need to stop this cycle of abuse, whether from workplace bullies, or elsewhere. Eventually, it became clear to me that they are picking up on my low self-worth, a result of the trauma.

On the Oct 28th YouTube broadcast of Doc Snipes “Ask Me Anything,” I typed the following question into her chat, “What are some strategies to improve low self-worth?” I’ll be implementing her advice during the first month of these meetings, attending at two weeks to check in with my progress.

Go back and watch this particular broadcast to hear her recommended strategies for me (at 15:25), as well as many other interesting issues her audience members asked for help with, and great strategies she offered.

Incredible Mental Health Professionals with a Channel on YouTube:

Therapy in a Nutshell - All Areas of Mental Health (my personal favourite!)

How to ADHD - Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder

Doctor Ramani - Narcissistic Abuse

The Holistic Psychologist - Dr. Nicole LePera - Brilliant Clinical Psychologist - Bestselling Author

Rebecca C. Mandeville - Family Scapegoat Abuse

Forrest Hanson - Therapist - Attachment Styles, PTSD, Somatic Psychology, Toxic Culture, Self Worth

Doc Snipes - Addiction Recovery, Depression, Anxiety, Healing from Trauma

Mel Robbins - NYT Best Selling Author & Interviewer - anxiety, procrastination, confidence, life of purpose

Thais Gibson - Attachment Styles, Core Negative Beliefs, Bestselling Author

Dr. Tracy Marks - Psychiatrist with 20+ years experience

Crappy Childhood Fairy - Childhood trauma

Jerry Wise - Trauma expert

Eckert Tolle - Spiritual Leader & Visionary - books such as The Power of Now

Jack Kornfield - Meditation Expert

Tara Brach - Meditation Expert

LIST OF MENTAL HEALTH CHALLENGES:

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
Complex Trauma
Low Self-Worth
Interpersonal Skills
Family Issues
Chronic Pain
Irritability
Excessive Guilt
Core Negative Beliefs
Depression
Sadness
Difficulty Concentrating
Poor Decision-making
Fearful
Hopelessness
Anxiety
Self-harm
Addiction/Substance Use Disorder
Panic Disorder
Social Anxiety
Eating Disorders
Bipolar Mania
Sleep Disturbance
Excessive Worry
Anger Issues
ADHD
Hyperactivity
Social Isolation
Disinterested
Nightmares

Weekly Goal Setting Meeting: Each participant will receive a copy of the Success Partnership Form, a weekly goal-setting form to review the previous week and set your goals for the upcoming week and month. Did you attend our meeting last week? How did you do on your goals?

We'll take ten minutes to fill in the form. Start by giving your previous week a 'mark' out of ten. (Want the form ahead of time? Google "Success Partnership Form" word or PDF)

Even if you don't download the form, you can think about your goals for the upcoming week. Make use of Rich Fettke's "Power of 3" suggestion - two is too few goals, four is too many - for both monthly and weekly goals.

Each participant reads out their answers. (Eight participants get 7 minutes each, more time for fewer attendees). If you would like feedback, just ask for it. Feedback will not be offered unless you ask. (Please refrain from offering feedback unless asked - this is IMPORTANT!)

One question on the form is: RESULTS OF MY GOALS FROM OUR LAST MEETING. If you have not attended this meeting previously, simply write in any results from goals you have recently accomplished.

We'll close the meeting by discussing dates for upcoming meetings:
- Ultimate Management of Paper and Electronic Files
- Quarterly/Yearly Goal Setting
- Life Balance Wheel
- Clarify Life Values

I will explain how one-on-one Success Partnership works, if you prefer private goal setting with me rather than a group.

Also, I encourage group members to break off into sets of two and become Success Partners together, if desired. You can save the $5 fee for attending my meetings, and chat more in-depth about your goals with a partner, rather than having 7 minutes. But remember, you won't get the benefit of group support.

But be forewarned: I spent the last twenty years trying to get folks to commit to being Success Partners with me - it can be challenging! People can flake on you! Just know that if you do give this a try for a time, you will certainly be welcomed back if it doesn't work out.

Attendance for this meeting is a Flexible Fee of $2 - $5: cash in an envelope on the table, or e-transfer. NOTE: Fees will be collected at the start of the meeting. Job Seeker? Disability recipient? Meetings are FREE - temporarily. I am confident that by attending and setting your goals, you will be in a position to cover the fee very soon.

Meetings begin promptly at 7PM, so please try to arrive at 6:45PM. (You'll get to network with everyone by arriving early...) With the ferries docking nearby, and the boardwalk by the water, we sometimes take a nice stroll afterwards - please join us!

Weekly Sunday Night Goal Setting Meetings take place every Sunday night...Join us! Improve your life EXPONENTIALLY!!

Weekly Goal Setting Meeting: Each participant will receive a copy of the Success Partnership Form, a weekly goal-setting form to review the previous week and set your goals for the upcoming week and month. Did you attend our meeting last week? How did you do on your goals?

We'll take ten minutes to fill in the form. Start by giving your previous week a 'mark' out of ten. (Want the form ahead of time? Google "Success Partnership Form" word or PDF)

Even if you don't download the form, you can think about your goals for the upcoming week. Make use of Rich Fettke's "Power of 3" suggestion - two is too few goals, four is too many - for both monthly and weekly goals.

Each participant reads out their answers. (Eight participants get 7 minutes each, more time for fewer attendees). If you would like feedback, just ask for it. Feedback will not be offered unless you ask. (Please refrain from offering feedback unless asked - this is IMPORTANT!)

One question on the form is: RESULTS OF MY GOALS FROM OUR LAST MEETING. If you have not attended this meeting previously, simply write in any results from goals you have recently accomplished.

We'll close the meeting by discussing dates for upcoming meetings:
- Ultimate Management of Paper and Electronic Files
- Quarterly/Yearly Goal Setting
- Life Balance Wheel
- Clarify Life Values

I will explain how one-on-one Success Partnership works, if you prefer private goal setting with me rather than a group.

Also, I encourage group members to break off into sets of two and become Success Partners together, if desired. You can save the $5 fee for attending my meetings, and chat more in-depth about your goals with a partner, rather than having 7 minutes. But remember, you won't get the benefit of group support.

But be forewarned: I spent the last twenty years trying to get folks to commit to being Success Partners with me - it can be challenging! People can flake on you! Just know that if you do give this a try for a time, you will certainly be welcomed back if it doesn't work out.

Attendance for this meeting is a Flexible Fee of $2 - $5: cash in an envelope on the table, or e-transfer. NOTE: Fees will be collected at the start of the meeting. Job Seeker? Disability recipient? Meetings are FREE - temporarily. I am confident that by attending and setting your goals, you will be in a position to cover the fee very soon.

Meetings begin promptly at 7PM, so please try to arrive at 6:45PM. (You'll get to network with everyone by arriving early...) With the ferries docking nearby, and the boardwalk by the water, we sometimes take a nice stroll afterwards - please join us!

Weekly Sunday Night Goal Setting Meetings take place every Sunday night...Join us! Improve your life EXPONENTIALLY!!